When Friends Become Lovers.

2010-11-02T16:45:00.000-05:00

I happen to be on of those guys that has a MILLION & ONE female friends and I tell you it has it's advantages & it's disadvantages. The advantages are you have access to so many different women on so many different levels, the disadvantages are when other women know you have alot of female friends you're considered a playboy. Well in all all honesty back in my younger years I was a playboy!!!! LOL Ya know... they say you have to be friends to become lovers, I don't agree with that... In my opinion if you were friends and you cross that line you have reached a point of no return. I think you should become lovers first to become friends because if it don't work you can either choose to part ways or stay friends, when you are friends first you feel obligated to make a friendship work. I know that sounds backwards as hell but the female friends of mine I ended up having sex with they ended up wanting more then a sexual relationship and it puts a strain on the frienship. This is not to say that say all friends turned into lovers relationships go bad but I can say you're taking one hell of a chance believe me!!!!! One of my friends a young lady I have known my whole life... since I was 5yrs old I ended up having a son with who is now 6yrs old. She is a good person but we can argue like cats & dogs!!! it's crazy because this same girl I have known for years.
This is a perfect situation of me feeling like I crossed the line with friends becoming lovers. Im not a playboy anymore but I won't cross the friends & lovers line ever again... depending on the friendship shall I say!!! ;-)

How To Get A Girl To Like You.

2010-11-01T18:12:00.001-05:00

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1 Have your own life, If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this is especially important. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they are insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interest, hobbies and goals.

Make an impression, There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself, Demonstrate a unique skill, talent or something difficult to do that you're proud of like playing guitar and singing in tune at the same time, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too. Impress her, but do not boast too much about your great achievments and plans.

3 Be her friend, Girls don't just fall for random strangers. (Well, some do, but the relationship never goes very far!) If you're in the same Geometry class as her, learn her name. Every time she walks into class, smile at her. Sometimes this is all it takes for a girl to notice you. At the same time though, don't do this too often! It will just end up looking like you're obsessed with her. But if you talk to other girls too, like friends of yours, then she'll see that you're all there. If she doesn't seem to see you, when she walks by, just say "Hi _______." In a friendly way. This way she'll know you exist. If she's shy, she might just smile back, so don't take this as a sign that she doesn't like you! However, if you want your relationship to move ahead, don't get stuck in the quicksand - that is the 'Friend Zone'. Sometimes a girl won't go out with you because she's afraid if the relationship ends badly, she'll lose your friendship! To start moving things along, be a little flirty! A woman will only be intimate with a man she knows, trusts and cares about; and this can only be achieved with time and friendly chat.

4 Flirt, When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact and smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax The more you talk, the more relaxed you'll become. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or if you have something stuck to your teeth. She may be just as nervous, and small mistakes will likely go unnoticed or be ignored. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours.Live in the moment Just be careful that you don't get so caught up in the moment that you say or do something you might regret later.

5 Talk to her, Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what gets her excited. Be positive If you had a bad day, still greet her pleasantly with a big smile. Most importantly, listen to everything she says . Whether she talks about herself, her family, hobbies or anything, pay attention. Some things could be useful or important to know later in the relationship. Nod to show that you're listening, and also respond to what she says so she knows that you really are listening. Girls are very appreciative of guys who demonstrate sincere interest in what they say.

6 Be Romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles, chocolate and teddy bears) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique; find and do things that only she would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Girls easily notice if you still remember things they told you a long while ago. Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know—better than anyone else in the world—what makes her unique.

7 Break the touch barrier, There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. If she's worried, put your hand lightly on her shoulder to comfort her. These are all polite ways to get a little closer to a girl without being creepy. Girls are delicate, even if they put up a tough front, so make sure the touching is light; for example, don't slap her on the back. If you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

8 Compliment her, If you really like the girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt) make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original, perhaps by specifying a particular feature. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills. If you're not sure what's good or bad complimenting, read How to Compliment girls..

9 Make her laugh, Telling jokes or funny stories is a classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that will make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). Laughter will come by itself if both of you are relaxed and enjoying each other's company.

10 Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you. Make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and Ask her out preferably, where you have or do something you're proud of. Alternatively, you can express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. If you aren't yet ready or comfortable with the idea of sharing your personal lives to that extent, just go out for lunch or do something simple together, maybe with a small group of friends, where you can get to know her better.

11 Look good Work out run a mile or two, do some sit ups, get a six pack, etc. Also get a tan, so when you go to the pool and she is there, she will be like, "wow". Girls like a guy with a tan and some muscles, but don't overdo it; girls don't like it when you have too much muscles. That just shows that you love your muscles too much. Older people usually look better with normal facial and neck fat content range.

12 Giving her value, Women want to feel important and valued; do not pay only two pennies for her when she knows she is worth fifty pennies, figurativily speaking; use only the most difficult contact method that you got that require the greatest efford; do not use a short cheap email note to ask her for her personal information or a date, but ask in person preferrably at her home. Not doing this probably leads to no response or rejection of you. I hope you find this information usefel and good luck with the dating scene!!

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When Friends Become Lovers.

How To Get A Girl To Like You.